I know it can be kind of frustrating to make lasting change, especially when it comes to your health, nutrition, mindset and energy. You start when the kids go back to school, but by October you've fallen off the wagon when life gets in the way.
Then in January you make a New Year's resolution because what better time, but feel like you have failed by February.
So you try again in March or April because you want to be active throughout the summer and feel good in a bathing suit and then same thing, it doesn't last.
So what's the secret? Why can some people make changes that last and others struggle?
Well, it's all about how you create the change.
So the next number one way to create lasting change is creating habits. You need to look at your goals and what habits you need to put into place in order to reach those goals.
What's going to make the big difference for you is if you don't try and bite off more than you can chew, in other words create one habit at a...
If you are anything like me, you know what it's like to be exhausted, overwhelmed, "at the end of your rope", forgetful, wiped out...
I get it because I was there too.
Right now you might be working from home with kids at home, or going back to work and having to put your kids back out into the world which comes with a whole host of worries:
It's especially important during stressful times to take extra care of ourselves, but that's also when it's the hardest.
If you are anything like many moms, you won't do what it take to take care of yourself (even though everything will be easier if you do, it's like a cart and horse scenario).
Why is that? There are many different reasons, but here are a few common ones:
What is one complaint I hear from a lot of moms?
There aren’t enough hours in the day.
What are you really saying when you say this?
So, does it need to take a ton of time?
No, it doesn’t
It’s all about making small habit changes to your nutrition, exercise, lifestyle and mindset.
This sounds like a lot, but by picking 1 one change you want to make and dedicating as little as 5 – 10 minutes a day (especially starting out), you can really start to see changes.
The best way to do this is to find a short period of time each day that you can dedicate, pick one habit...
If you are anything like most moms, you just want to have a pile of energy so you can have fun with your kids, friends and family, and feel like yourself again, energetic, calm and happy.
Do you want this too?
The worst part is that it can feel so overwhelming to even know where to start.
This can lead to more overwhelm where you end up being stuck just spinning your wheels or in research but never taking action.
If this is you then I want to give you a first step.
When I was an exhausted mom (who was snapping at everyone, didn’t have the energy to do anything, didn’t know who I was and didn’t have it in me to figure it out) I just needed a place to start.
But… where was that?
It was a commitment to myself. I wrote down what I was able to commit to and then actually signed it like a contract.
And, believe it or not, whenever I want to up-level, I write a new commitment.
The reason for you to do this is a couple of reasons:
The alarm goes off…
You try to ignore the fact that you have to get up, cause you are still dropping tired…
But you hear the kiddos and know that you have to start your day, so you drag yourself out of bed.
With your eyes hardly even open, you drink that first cup of coffee and then spend the day just “going through the motions” because you are way too tired to do anymore than that.
After a long exhausted day, you put the kids to bed and then stay up way too late watching Netflix.
You finally drag yourself off to bed, absolutely beat and then…
Your eyes are wide open and your mind starts racing (I call it hamster-wheeling)!
What do I have to do tomorrow? Why can’t I go to be earlier? I have to remember to remind my partner to do something. I have this project to start tomorrow. Oh, no the bake sale! Oh shoot I have to get my mother-in-law a birthday present. I wonder if what I can do with the kids this weekend. How do I help my kid...
To get your energy back as a exhausted mom, should you just jump in and start trying to get more sleep?
If it was that easy, you would already be doing that.
Many exhausted moms who I talk to beat themselves up because they can’t understand why they can’t just get more sleep.
You spend the day saying that tonight will be different, tonight you will go to bed on time, you will get tons of sleep and feel amazing tomorrow.
But then after the kids go to bed, you flop on the couch, binge-watch tv and finally crawl into bed dropping tired and say to yourself that tomorrow you will go to bed earlier.
Does this sound familiar? Many times, moms think that they just need to go to bed earlier, eat better, start exercising…
But then none of this happens and you beat yourself up, or…
You start to do some of this, and keep it up for a few days or even a week and then go back to your old habits…
So, what do you do?
Do you give up?
Because guess what…...
I had read an article a little while ago I kind of found frustrating and a bit upsetting actually. I was a little bit “ranty” about it, so I really just needed to address the elephant in the room. Basically what the article was saying was for moms self care is B.S.
This is type of attitude is what makes moms feel guilty and selfish for taking care of themselves. I am drawing a line in the sand now. This is plain wrong! Moms should not feel selfish or guilty for taking care of themselves because when you take care of yourself you can take better care of your loved ones. So you can obviously see why I was ranting about the article.
Self care may not always be pedicures and spa days and what you see a lot of times in the media or on shows. It really depends on what you personally need. Maybe self care means you need to clean up your diet, exercise, meditate, or lower your stress levels. Maybe self care means you need to hang out with friends, grow your community or ask for...
I hear a lot of exhausted mom clients complain they don’t don’t understand why they just can’t go to bed earlier or get more sleep.
There are times when even I don’t sleep well because the kids wake up in the middle of the night or other reasons outside my control, and if that happens once in a while, I don’t worry too much about it. But if it’s happening all the time, that’s when I really try and think about what’s going on? Why am I not sleeping? You know?
I remember when I first had kids I would always find that I had one ear open, so even if I slept, if there was the littlest tiny noise or anything, I would be up up. You know? And I know I still probably still do this a little, but I feel much more rested.
If I’m not sleeping or if I am sleeping but I wake up and I’m not rested, then I try to reflect to find out what is going on? Because that shouldn’t happen, unless there’s a specific reason like your...
I hear a lot of exhausted moms who want their energy back so that they can feel excited, fun and like a good role-model stress that they struggle with making changes, motivation and will power.
A little while ago, I was talking to a colleague of mine and she felt a little bit stuck with a client because her client seem to be resisting a lot of the recommendations that she had made. I said I can see that, you know, because people don’t like change.
The thing is is from an evolutionary standpoint, it actually makes sense that we don’t like change, right?
I mean, change can be scary and once upon a time if there was something that changed, it was usually really, really bad or even detrimental. There was a famine, a food shortage, a plague going through or the river dry up and you’d have to move to find a new river.
So we’re basically hardwired to not like change at all, you know? Especially when you main concern is taking care of little ones.
So many exhausted moms who just want their energy back so that they can have fun with their kids tell me that they don’t know where to start.
I remember after I had my little guy, I was so absolutely exhausted. I would get mad at the kids for fighting, I felt overwhelmed, stressed, and I certainly didn’t have the energy to be the fun mama I wanted to be.
One day, I remember I was just so tired and couldn’t handle the fighting anymore while I was trying to make supper after a long day that I just yelled at the kids.
And I felt so terrible. It wasn’t their fault that I was exhausted and overwhelmed…
But I felt so guilty that I just sat on one of their little Lego chairs and started crying. I knew things had to change, this wasn’t how I wanted my children to grow up, I wanted them to grow up in a happy and fun house not one where their mom was constantly stressed.
I knew I had to go back to my training in Natural Nutrition to...